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Reduce Stress and Be More Successful

Haven Carter • Nov 09, 2018

When you reduce the icky stress in your life, you live a better life – a happier, healthier and more joyful life. A more successful one, too.


It’s true. When you are relatively stress-free you are more successful in every area of your life.


If you take good care of yourself, you love what you are doing, then everything is in flow and everything flows easily through you and to you – family, friends, spirit, health, career, and money.

If not, you’re all clogged up. Or dammed up as the case may be.


What happens when you’re stressed out? How do you feel? What do you look like?

I know what I look like. I look like a chicken with my head cut off.


A friend of mine is a brain researcher and she says it’s our reptilian brain at work, racing from one bright and shiny object to another, REACTING to the next crisis and never really getting to things we want to create.

So when we behave this way all the time, we die from exhaustion. The reptile dies.


But we’re human and when we are in reactive mode with no breaks, we burn out.


So we learn and when we suffer a burnout, we begin to pay attention to ourselves, sort of. We react some and catch ourselves, take a pause. We start to feel burnt out so we go to the spa or the gym – we get a massage, or we work out– releasing the stress. We begin to pause, breathe, think and then act – we are learning to respond. We are in responsive mode.


Still, we notice that we are not really doing what we want to do.


All of these great ideas we had when we started our company are still on the whiteboard as we race around doing, doing, doing for our clients.

Yes, the bills are being paid – and the great idea on the whiteboard which will take us and our clients to the next level sits up there – you can see it – waiting to be manifested.


One day, either from exhaustion, frustration, or a glimpse of clarity, you decide enough is enough and you begin to take excellent care of yourself.


You take care of you first and you are full, so full of love, kindness, and compassion. You’re calm, peaceful, focused, deliberate, strong, powerful, empowered, and happy.


You begin creating that idea on the whiteboard. Sure, the clients might still be gnawing and clawing at you for this and that. And rather than reacting. You pause, you breathe and you respond in your time, in your way (unless there’s blood on the floor) and continue to create your dream which is making everything flow better for you and for them.


You’re setting good, healthy boundaries and you are in creative mode, your peak performance zone and you are teaching your clients how to hang out in this zone too.


So how do we get there to this creative mode, our peak performance zone?


We take excellent care of ourselves. We reduce the stress in our lives. We allow everything to flow.


Over the next few days, I’m going to key in on 7 easy and fun ways to relieve stress and live a happier, more successful life.

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